So this weekend sees the first birthday party of my niece. Unfortunately it is also my kids weekend with their mother. So I phone and ask if the kids can come to their nieces birthday party on Sunday afternoon. I get told no- not vindictively but because a niece on my wife’s side is having her second birthday party at the same time!
In the old times we would have found a way, gone half half or something. Now- well I will be making apologies and trying to explain to another niece why her favourite cousin isn’t there. Ah well, I knew when the divorce started that these kind of issues would occur- but as the first time it has happened, I guess its part of the process of normalisation and getting used to the new status quo.
